Malachi 2:14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee [husbands] and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.
Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Deuteronomy 10:20 Thou shalt fear the LORD thy God; him shalt thou serve, and to him shalt thou cleave, and swear by his name.
Joshua 23:8 But cleave unto the LORD your God, as ye have done unto this day.
"Cleaving involves unswerving loyalty to one’s marital partner. Note that man is to cleave to "his wife." This excludes marital unfaithfulness. A man cannot be glued to his wife and flirt or engage in sexual intercourse with another woman. The two are mutually exclusive. In a marriage covenant, cleaving does not allow the "freedom to leave" when the relationship is no longer satisfying."
"Sex was not created for recreational pleasure with multiple partners. Sex was designed for the marriage couple, creating a Covenant between the two spouses to become one."
"When you enter into Blood Covenant with someone, you promise to give him or her your life, your love, and your protection forever…’till death do you part."
"This blood goes onto the man's penis. The man is in her blood, with her flesh on either side of him, just as the parties entering into covenant. Each time that couple comes together again in sex, they are reenacting their covenant."
"Biologically speaking, the hymen serves no purpose at all. However, we find the physical proof of a torn hymen will generally produce blood, and through God's design this gives us the prime means of oneness: Covenant of Blood. In marriage, a penetrated hymen is, ideally, the seal of the blood covenant between husband and wife before God Almighty."
Deuteronomy 22:17 'Now he has charged her with shameful conduct, saying, "I found your daughter was not a virgin," and yet these are the evidences of my daughter's virginity.' And they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city.
"On her wedding night, the bride would carry a piece of cloth with her to catch the blood that flowed when her hymen was thus torn. The cloth would then be given to the woman’s father to be kept as proof that she was a virgin when she wed."
"A couple is not married in God’s eyes until they have had sex with each other. Even in modern times, a marriage is not said to be ‘consummated’ or completed until the couple have had sex."
"The problem with the wedding is that in this day and age, among many people, the outward sign of the wedding has grown to be seen as the marriage itself, and sex has become meaningless. People respect weddings more than they respect sex (yet even weddings and marriage contracts are hardly respected). We have allowed the outward sign to take precedence in importance over the reality of what that outward sign shows."
1 Corinthians 7:1-2 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
NLT 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband. 4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife.
KJV 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
NIV 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.
"Christianity considers sex with someone you're not married to be a SINFUL thing. But once you've made that choice, once you've crossed over into the state of marriage, sex becomes a prescription."
"Some people take this to mean they can demand sex from their spouse, but that’s against the whole spirit of this passage and against the whole spirit of the New Testament."
"In marriage, God now intends for your body to be a source of pleasure for your spouse. It would be wrong for you to demand sex from your spouse, because your body is no longer your own. But it would be equally wrong for you to withhold sex from your spouse. You must each be mindful of the needs and desires of the other."
NLT 1 Corinthians 7:5 So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time, so they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control.
KJV 1 Corinthians 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
NIV 1 Corinthians 7:5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
"Scheduling sex might not sound very erotic or spontaneous, but spontaneity is overrated when it comes to sex. Being "spontaneous" about sex probably means you don't have it very often. If you and your wife set aside time for sex on a regular basis, you'll enjoy it more."
"If we are married, sex is a top priority, and we are expected to say no to things which will significantly interfere with our ability to give ourselves sexually. Clearly there are some higher priorities, like feeding your family, or making the money to feed them, and there are occasions where such priorities will interfere with a couple's sex life. However, a couple needs to work to change the situation as fast as reasonably possible."
"The responsibilities of parenthood notwithstanding, couples who focus for years on their little ones and neglect their own relationships will likely see a significant decline in marital happiness. Experts warn of treating one another like roommates, which can happen when household and work responsibilities consistently take higher priority than the marriage."
The Rule: Abstaining from sex must be agreed upon (by both parties), and that even when it is agreed upon, it should only be for a limited time.
"Some 54% of married people, according to our research, wish they were having more sex, and the people who are doing it more also report being happier in their relationships."
"The Bible does not provide concrete numbers, but it does expect marital sex to be marked by frequency and mutual satisfaction."
"When the Talmud talks about sexual frequency, it bases it upon the man's occupation. If a man was a sailor, obviously he wouldn't be home every night. Same if he was a traveling merchant. However, for most of the people, then just as now, the man is home from his work every night. In those cases, the Talmud says that a couple should have sexual relations a minimum of once a day!"
"We don't mean that something is wrong if you're not having sex five times a week, but it should be an important part of your relationship just like communication, parenting, or financial planning. If you have a healthy sex life, there's a good chance that other areas of your relationship will be stable."
"It has been estimated that 20 million couples in the US alone are in a sexless marriage -- sexless in the sense that the couples in question have sex less than 10 times a year!"
"It seems that 20% of married couples between the ages of 18 and 59 have sex with each other ten times or less per year. Another 15% have sex with each other about twice a month or less"
"Research exists to show that marital satisfaction and sexual satisfaction rise and fall together. If one or both mates are sexually dissatisfied, that negatively affects their satisfaction with their marriage as a whole."
Sexual abstinence in the marriage did not strengthen these saints in their battle with the flesh and with Satan; it weakened them, and it made them more open to temptation!
"God's Word warns you that in your marriage you must not deny sex from one another except for a time, and in mutual consent, in order to fast and pray. But once you finish fasting and praying and sit down to satisfy your appetite in a meal, remember that there is also the sexual appetite that God wants you to satisfy as well. And do not delay! Delays trigger infidelity, adultery, lack of intimacy, and divorce"
"It rates as the number one recreation of the world, and there is no question about that. It always has been, and it always will be. Nothing compares to it, and God likes it that way; he designed it that way."
"The body is hardwired to respond to food with pleasure. Hunger alerts us to the fact that we need to eat. While eating, our response is pleasure. Whether it's the taste of the food or the satisfaction of filling our stomachs, the brain indicates that the body's needs are met by sending signals of delight and gratification. But God chose pleasure as the primary reward for nourishment. He did the same with sex. We have a need for physical contact and intimacy with our wife. God made a woman's body pleasing to us, and he made sex feel good so we would meet that need. When we regard all desires of the flesh as sinful, we reject God's plan and design."
Proverbs 5:15-19 Drink water from your own cistern, And running water from your own well. 16 Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets? 17 Let them be only your own, And not for strangers with you. 18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Deuteronomy 24:5 " When a man has taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war or be charged with any business; he shall be free at home one year, and bring happiness to his wife whom he has taken.
Genesis 18:12 Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, After I am waxed old shall I have pleasure, my lord [Abraham] being old also?
"God inspired 8 whole chapters of erotic desire and fulfillment for his people to read yet he said nothing in this book about having babies! The minds of these lovers were on personal pleasure, smelling, touching, and tasting one another!"
"If the Song of Solomon was not meant to be about sexuality then: Why seduce your audience with clear images of erotic pleasure if you want to lead their minds to something entirely different?" Michael Pearle
Song of Solomon 1:2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love ["lovemaking" NET] is better than wine.
The NET - Oh, how I wish you would kiss me passionately! For your lovemaking is more delightful than wine!
Song of Solomon 1:13 A bundle of myrrh is my beloved to me, That lies all night between my breasts.
Rabbi Akiba ben Joseph said, "Heaven forbid that any man in Israel ever disputed that the Song of Songs is holy. For the whole world is not worth the day on which the Song of Songs was given to Israel, for all the Writings are holy and the Song of Songs is the Holy of Holies" (Mishnah Yadayim 3:5).
"The Jews did not surrender the pleasures and art of lovemaking to the depraved and perveted elements of our society. The righteous could talk about it, sing about it!"
"Many people seem to think that God indeed invented the tools, but the devil made them fun." Michael Pearle.
"This is why married couples enjoy sex anytime of the month, while nearly all animals need to be stimulated by monthly cycles in the female. You are NOT an animal…" Sexual activity is generally more important to humans than it is to animals. It is significant that among the mammals, only the human female is capable of enjoying sexual orgasm as well as the male."
God created sex:
1. For procreation.
2. For an intimate bond.
3. For a blood covenant.
4. To avoid temptation.
5. For personal pleasure.